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Last night, Ben and I had a really serious conversation. About hard life stuff. Stuff that we deal with because of our upbringings and because of who we are as individuals. There were tears. (ME, duh) And awkward silences. And feelings of just wanting the conversation to be over so we could get back to having fun and hanging out.
Then shortly after, we were watching Shrek and laughing. After the movie, I was hyper and excited thinking about how today was our anniversary and talking to Ben about what I was doing at that exact moment four years ago. And then looking at old photos of us and reminiscing on how each of those photos has a memory associated with it and thinking of all that we have been through together. We then climbed in bed, and I annoyed Ben by all my talking because apparently boys don’t stay up chatting at their sleepovers like we girls do.
And that got me to thinking. That’s exactly how marriage is all the time. We have these really good, hard conversations every so often that help us grow and make us realize our weaknesses and the things we need to work. But then there’s A LOT of fun and laughing and still getting excited at the fact that we get to have sleepovers every night. And ALL of it is GOOD. If we didn’t have those hard conversations, we wouldn’t be growing as a couple. God is constantly showing me things I need to work on, and I grow because Ben challenges me. That’s what happen when you put two people together to figure out life together. And I know I’m so blessed to have a marriage where I feel safe doing that.
Marriage is the best. It’s realizing that as much as you love running, your spouse probably doesn’t. It’s random silly dance parties that make you laugh so hard you pee. It’s crying together because life doesn’t make sense sometimes. It’s realizing that your marriage doesn’t look like everyone else’s but it’s perfect because it’s yours. It’s being ok with the fact that your spouse is a better cook than you are. It’s learning to adjust expectations and roll with the punches. It’s being spontaneous and doing things that take you out of your comfort zone. And it’s exactly where God wants me to be It’s literally my favorite thing ever, and I can’t imagine my life not being married to Ben. It’s my favorite.
I love you Baby. On the good days, the bad days and everything in between, and I thank God everyday for how He put us together because He knew we would be the perfect fit.
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